Values, intentions & effects
You should watch this TEDX-talk, because it makes you understand other peoples choices and intentions. I also find it useful when it comes to being able (…or trying) to speak the same language. Avoiding misunderstandings in our everyday might just be one of our biggest challenges, either in near relationships or across different professional fields. Most of us have good intentions while doing something - I'd even argue that Taliban has a good intention - it's just that we don't understand or agree with their values. There are tons of good intentions in this world that can have not-so-good effects - the importance of these effects are depending on your values.
Sebastian Deterding shows the website on the left; a service that sells badges for parents to reward their children when their kids are succeeding in f.ex. tying their shoelaces. But the long-term effect of this is that children will grow up valuing recognition from others more than they value their own feeling for mastering or learning, which can be problematic.